Tallahassee, FL — Samia Burton of TheSexualEssentials.com sat down with Drea and Lex of the “Pour Minds” podcast this past week, where they discussed the ins and outs of sexual compatibility, orgasms, blow jobs, squirting and how to create ecstasy through foreplay and communication.

The hands-on sex educator, who hosts educational workshops such as #MouthMasterClass, #DickRiding101 and #Masturbation&Squirting101, kicked off the episode — “Hibachi Titties” — with how to build an intense rapport with a partner to create satisfying sex.

“A lot of people think that sexual compatibility is just like the sex being good… sometimes our sex drives are different… sometimes the things you’re doing really turn you on but it’s not doing anything [for him],” Burton explained.

“I came here with this bag full of toys, right? If you mostly fuck with butt plugs, it’s like you’re not really understanding me because you assume you want to fuck the same way I want to, and that’s not realistic… sometimes they’re not speaking your sexual love language,” Burton continued.

Burton also brought up the topic of arousal (“You should have foreplay for about eighteen minutes”), elevating excitement above desire (“Just because you’re in desire mode does not mean you’re aroused”) and reaching orgasm (“If you’re not getting fucked well, it’s both of your faults”).

To hear the full episode of “Pour Minds” podcast with Samia Burton, go to PourMinds.com.