Dave Cummings is a popular adult film star, producer and director. He is also a regular industry columnist whose work appears regularly in YNOT News. Jennifer Leigh of TheAdultWebmaster.com caught up with Dave Cummings recently to talk about his porn career, his unshakably positive outlook on life, and any dating advice he might have for tragically clueless men.Dave Cummings is a popular adult film star, producer and director. He is also a regular industry columnist whose work appears regularly in YNOT News. Jennifer Leigh of TheAdultWebmaster.com caught up with Dave Cummings recently to talk about his porn career, his unshakably positive outlook on life, and any dating advice he might have for tragically clueless men. Check out this fantastic interview with the happiest man in porn.

JL: If James Brown is the Godfather of Soul then Dave Cummings is definitely the Godfather of Porn.

DC: I’ve also been called “The John Glenn of Porn” by Score Magazine. And a number of folks have used phases like, “The Elder Statesman of Porn!”

JL: Everyone knows you, and I think it’s safe to say that there is no one is this business who does not agree that you are the most likable person in the industry.

DC: Not so fast! Because I confronted them, I suspect that a few of the “scumbags,” particularly in the way they treat our female talent, don’t think well of me!

JL: You always have so much going on! You’re the most active man I know both professionally and personally. What projects are you working on right now, and what can we look forward to seeing from you in the future?

DC: Presently, in addition to shooting 2-3 scenes a week in San Diego where I live, and going to Los Angeles for bookings with other companies, and I’m in the process of converting my 40 VHS video releases to DVD. I’m also revitalizing the marketing of www.davecummings.com and adding hundreds of free adult sites as well as a few pay sites. And I’m beginning to shape notes for an “insider” book I hope to write, a memoirs tentatively titled: “From Altar Boy to Porn Star.”

JL: You have the most positive outlook of anyone I know in a business that is so difficult; how do you keep that going?

DC: I don’t have a specific “plan” to make that happen; rather, besides it being possibly an age-related thing wherein I don’t strongly or negatively feel stress or pressure, I always “let” myself see things in a positive way.

DC: Even a traffic jam is an opportunity to slow down from the sometimes too fast and unsafe flow of traffic we too often get trapped and/or unavoidably jammed into. A set with too many distractions while trying to “perform” allows me to focus even more attentively and pleasurably in my mind (and groin area) on the beauty/attitude/personality/sexiness/etc of the female talent I’m “working with.” A glass is never half-empty, but happily is still half FULL. Mean people aren’t to be disliked or apt to upset a situation or me, because I understand that karma will convert later into positives to somehow/sometime offset the prior temporary “pothole.”

DC: People aren’t bad, but sometimes their behaviors are not good, so I avoid being around those types. I also feel inwardly good about being nice to folks I see and interact with during everyday life, and I do it just to be nice – not to get something out of it. Be nice just for the sake of being nice! Being happy can be self-directed, I feel. One doesn’t have to get upset by negatives out of one’s control; instead, turn it into an opportunity of some sort, or at the very least be happy that it’s gathering the law-of-averages towards karma providing a special future positive for oneself!

JL: When you’re not working, what do you do for personal enjoyment? Surely sex must get tiring after a time?

DC: Nope. For me, sex does NOT get tiring. Sex is a gift from God, one that She/He provides as a natural, normal, and healthy aspect of life. It’s especially healthy in an emotional and physical way, I feel. Even masturbation makes us more responsible citizens in that we can release built up stress and become more focused upon other aspects, such as being more productive at work/home/etc, safer drivers, more attentive listeners, better parents/bosses/neighbors/etc. Because I view it as a significant positive, I get off a number of times every day. It feels good, it makes me happy, and it helps me relax and focus. In fact, after finishing these questions, I’ll probably take things unashamedly into my own hands again!

DC: Other than sex, I jog or do a daily brisk 3 plus mile walk, sometimes twice a day. I answer fan emails. I keep up with news, nationally and locally, and adult industry matters. I’m involved with the lives of my two children and four grandchildren; in fact, I’m attending my 7-year old grandson’s “Rookie League” baseball game tomorrow! I also have many friends whom I interact with constantly, some in the adult industry, some military, some Hash House Harriers running club associates, some in the swinging world, and some in my neighborhood. I am VERY happy, and if I could wave a magic wand, it would be for EVERYBODY to be happy!

JL: I know you and I talked about doing a piece on tips for men when getting ready for a hot date. Personally I think all the guys I know need a little help. What are some important tips you can give them? Also, pick up lines are the worst! Tell all the guys how they should approach a woman, especially one they want a chance to sleep with!

DC: Personal hygiene is extremely important. Shower much more thoroughly than normal, paying particular attention to the crotch area. Make certain that toenails are trimmed (yes guys, we should not leave our socks on, especially since they might have been in smelly shoes!), as well as trimmed and clean fingernails. Shave closely, even against the grain, so as to not scrape a woman’s vaginal area or elsewhere. Carefully floss, use a tongue-scrapper from one of the drug stores, brush your teeth AND the entire inside of the mouth, and use mouthwash. I recommend against cologne or after-shave, just in case your date is fragrance adverse/allergic.

DC: In case one gets lucky, it might be helpful if the guy routinely consumes pineapple products; many females have told me that they would be more apt to happily “swallow” cum from such a guy, rather than be a “spitter” or cum-dodger!

DC: Now, let me mention attitude, as I feel it’s important when mentally/emotionally preparing for a date. Have a positive attitude, and “want” to make the date and experience a pleasant one for the young lady, one that she will want to repeat again and again with YOU. Be yourself, not some phony who tries to impress her. Be a thoughtful person during the evening, and a good listener – in fact, genuinely be a very attentive and interested listener; make HER the focus of the evening. Don’t keep bringing up sex if you sense that it makes her uncomfortable. Use common sense, have a non-corny sense of humor, and be a gentleman, someone she will want to spend more time with!

DC: The aforementioned concerned dating. If you want to approach a woman whom you’re attracted to, it helps to be (or at least act) sober, genuine (not a bullshitter), happy, interested as well as interesting, non-pushy, attentive, and down-to-earth. React to her reactions to you, including leaving her alone if that’s what she seems to be acting like.

JL: Pay real close attention to the above advice, fellas! You have a lot of young girls (20 somethings) that chase after you for an opportunity to sleep with you or perform with you. Has that spoiled you, or do you still think that the 30+ something ladies like myself are still appealing?

DC: I’m going to be 65 on my next birthday, and I feel like a very lucky old fart to be working in the adult industry, to have numerous and varied “groupie girls,” and to be a porn star that some woman merely want to copulate with just to feel good about themselves that they are “doing” a real porn star. Often times they also seem to like the idea that I remind them of a former high school teacher, a neighbor, or their dad’s golfing buddies. Yes, having sex with younger women is an ego booster; however, being with women other than the 20-something girls is fantastic, too! I especially like woman I know from the wonderful world of swinging, some of whom are in their 40’s. Bottom line, I like real woman, even the everyday non-porn girls. Sexual reality is fun!

JL: If there is one thing you’d like people to really know about you or your work, what would that be?

DC: It would be that EVERYONE (consenting adults, of course) could enjoy sex, not just younger folks or newlyweds! Look at me! I’m old and wrinkled, bald, overweight, and far from (age-adjusted) handsome, and I have only an average size appendage and load. If I can be happy and sexually active in the adult industry and swinging scene, then everybody can! I want to help people feel happiness, both within themselves and as they relate with/to others!

Jennifer Leigh is a regular columnist for TheAdultWebmaster.com, a Web site that offers daily articles and valuable resources for online adult industry professionals.